I Am My Lovers And My Lover Is Mine

“I am my lover’s, and my lover is mine.”

Song of Solomon 6:3

Reading the Song of Solomon tonight reminded me of something growing up. I am pretty sure my sister had this poem by Fritz Perls on her bedroom wall that read, “I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped.” Thank God we don’t serve a God of chance, but of divine providence.

She also had another poster with two hands releasing a dove into the air along with the words written beside it, “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you it’s yours. If it doesn’t it never was”. I am pretty sure both these poems had something to do with finding love or love finding you. All I know is I was in like the 5th grade and I knew nothing about love. Funny thing is, in many ways I am just scratching the surface now.

Are you aware that the love that the Bible teaches and the love God has for us as well as the love He desires that we show one another has nothing to do with feelings or emotions. So much deeper than the romantic love we read about in the Song of Solomon. The love God calls us to have for one another is His “agape” love which simply means, “love of choice or love of will”. It’s the best kind of love due to the fact that any other kind of love is subject to change based on feelings, moods, a change of heart, time, actions or inactions. God’s agape love is the best and highest kind of love because it’s a “predetermined love”. When infatuation wanes agape is still going strong because to love anyone with God’s agape love is to say in advance I love you because I choose to love you, I will to love you regardless of your feelings or actions towards me.

I know I know, you are thinking “who loves like this?” The answer is Jesus does! God loves you with a perfect love. You can read some of love’s qualities in 1 Corinthians 13. God is on a quest for your heart and mine today. He is pursuing us by His Spirit, longing for us to long for Him. Don’t get me wrong and make you think I am saying God is weak and He needs you or is incomplete without you. No, it’s exactly the opposite. We are weak and incomplete without God. The sooner we recognize that and turn to Him the sooner our lives begin to make sense. We were created by God and for God.

If you are looking for love today let me encourage you to look no further than into the face of God which is best revealed in the Word of God, the Bible. Open up your heart and invite Him in. If you have already done that but you find yourself in need of what I would call a spiritual hug today, then open the Bible and read God’s Word, soaking it in. Read how Jesus first came to this earth to reveal the Fathers love and how He proved it to us by giving His life on Calvary’s Cross. As He left this earth He did with the promise because He does love us one day He would return again for us and take us home to be with Him forever. Thats why the gospel is called “Good News”.

We, who like Mary at the empty tomb had to let go of Jesus when He revealed Himself to her because He had not yet ascended to His Father enjoys the same promise as us that we are His and He is ours because one day sooner than we think, Jesus will appear in the clouds and take us home. Like the poem said, “If it comes back to you it’s yours!” Jesus is yours because He is coming back for you! He gave us His Spirit as the down payment along with the promise…

“When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am.”

John 14:3


Michael Osthimer





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