Marry Up!

“It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.”

Proverbs 25:24

Today my wife and I celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary. In 40 years of marriage we have lived in 6 different homes. We rented two of them and owned four of them and if there is anything I have learned in my forty years of married life its this, home is where my wife is. I have told her many times in the last 40 years that I don’t care if we live in a large house, a small house, a tent or teepee. The only thing that matters to me is that she is there.

Far from contentious, I married up as I prayed my own sons would do when they got married and is what I share with every young couple I have the pleasure of doing premarital counseling with. We have a standing unwritten policy at CCB that we won’t perform the wedding ceremony unless the groom is marrying up. We believe that God said it was not good for man to be alone so God made a helper that was suitable for him. For Adam that was Eve and for me its my wife Lee. She is the best of me, bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh as it were. On July 9,1983 we became husband and wife, for better, for worse, richer and for poorer, and in sickness and in health. Thank GOD marriage isn’t a contract but a covenant as my wife has contributed way more than her fair share over the years.

Today as we celebrate us we really are celebrating the grace and mercy and goodness of our God. God has been the faithful one, He has been with us every step of the way and like the poem “Footprints” the times when there have been only one set of footprints its because Jesus was carrying us. People have asked us whats the secret to staying married 40 years? It’s really no secret. The answer is Jesus. We believed it was God who brought us together and its God who keeps us together.

For me, God knew exactly what I needed then and He knew exactly what I need today. Thats why I married up! I Thank GOD for the gift I have in my wife and if I could offer any advice to young men who want to get married I would say marry up. And to all the men who are married but you aren’t enjoying the married life you hoped and imagined, marry up! Love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. Help your wife to become all Jesus created her to be and you will in the end, have married up too!

“Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Mark 10:9  


Michael Osthimer





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