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"Lost Without Her"

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD."

Proverbs 18:22 (NKJV)

I woke up wide awake this morning at 3:00 a.m. still adjusting to living in another part of the world these last two weeks that is nine hours ahead of our time zone. As I was reading in the book of Psalms I began to pray for my wife and her first day of being back to work after our thirty-fifth wedding anniversary vacation to London and Paris and places in between. I know going back to work is always hard after being on vacation and because there are so many things that only my wife does in the course of her job I am certain her desk will be piled high and possibly a bit overwhelming.

As I was praying for her tears began to flow and I couldn't stop them. It wasn't just that I was feeling sorry for her for having to go back to work, (though I do wish she never had to go to work but being a two income family she does) I felt sorry for me. I knew I was going to miss being with her throughout the day as I had these past couple of weeks. Our lives are pretty hectic with work and ministry and tending to all the needs of our ever growing and spread out family, so the time I get my wife all to my self, just me and her is rare. Our vacation just reinforced so many reasons why I am so thankful to God for blessing me with the wife He has. Of all the experiences I enjoyed on our anniversary vacation, just being with her was my most cherished memory. But the lesson the Lord kept reminding me of almost daily was how lost I would be without her, literally.

The Word of God has much to say about marriage and most anyone who reads the Bible on a regular basis is familiar with most of the passages. God created marriage with a purpose, He knew that it was not good for man to be alone, so He created a "helper" who would be suitable for man. Thus, God created woman. One of the many needs marriage was intended to fulfill is our need for companionship so that we would not have to be alone in this world. Traveling around the globe I saw very many lonely people, and not just lonely but lost and lonely. You could see it in peoples eyes regardless of what continent you were on. I found myself feeling sad for complete strangers as my wife and I walked along the sidewalks hand in hand, with her fingers interlocked between mine. I cant even recall the number of times I thanked God for my wife while on our trip.

When we began to discuss our trip months before going my wife kept asking me what I wanted to do and see and I always had the same response. I would tell her, "whatever you want to see and do is what I want to do. Just being with you and watching you enjoy the trip will be my satisfaction." At times that response frustrated her because it put the burden of planning on her, all on her (though a friend of ours who works in the travel industry in Israel got us in contact with a travel agency in the UK who booked all our flights and hotel rooms along the way).

Every day in a part of the world we had never been before, and in a countries where we didn't speak the language, my wife had the mental stress of trying to get us from point A to point B because not only did our trip include seven different airline flights, but as well, numerous bus, train, subway, taxi and boat rides too. To say our trip was an adventure isn't an exaggeration at all. Every day I kept thinking to myself, "If I lose her I'm dead" as I had no idea regarding the intimate details of where we were headed. I had placed my trust in her in working out the details and was there for her when we encountered a speed bump of some sort and she needed help in figuring something out that wasn't expected or was uncertain. But seriously, I would be lost without her.

Life is made up of a series of tests that the Lord allows us to take until we pass. Marriage is just one of such tests. Those who pass the test are those who see their spouse as a gift from God Himself. God knows each of us better than we know ourselves. He knew what we needed when we first got married and as well He knows what each of us will require as we grow older together. For me, after following my wife all around the United Kingdom and France these past two weeks I can humbly and graciously say with all my heart, "I would be lost without her" as Proverbs 18:22 is so very true in reminding us, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD." I know because I am typing this from the comfort of my own home in the United States. She got me home safely! 

"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband…"

Proverbs 12:4 (NKJV)


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