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"Becoming Something New"

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"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."


Ephesians 5:31


If there has been a single passage of scripture that has dominated my week so far its this one in Ephesians 5:31. From pre-marital counseling, to couples with years of married life under their belts, the admonition of God's Word hasn't changed nor the process. Marriage is the process of leaving and cleaving that results in fusion. Some say its like a welder welding two individual pieces of metal into one. The joint or union is the strongest point. Others say it's a lot like child birth. It stretches you and creates tremendous discomfort and pain at times as it transforms both husband and wife, ultimately bringing forth something beautiful. The transformation is something you cant even imagine until you experience it for yourself and then suddenly, your life is changed forever. You are never again the same because you are something new! 

Many a couple are mistaken regarding marriage in believing the goal of marriage is to make us happy. God's goal of the Christian life which includes marriage is to be conformed into the image of Christ. There are numerous passages that speak of being conformed into the image of Jesus Christ, Romans 8, Romans 12, Philippians 3:10 and 3:21. Each speaks of a transformation where our likeness takes on the likeness of Christ and what a beautiful transformation it is. I think we would all agree, when our lives become a true reflection of Jesus, we will be very happy!

The practical day to day goal of marriage is to be conformed into one, no longer independent but interdependent, to become something you could never become being single. Marriage is the pinnacle of all human relationships and defined biblically is the sacred relationship between one man man and one woman as God uniquely created them, for the purpose of procreation and fruitful companionship with Him and one another. You see, loved one, its in the marriage between man and woman that we see a type and shadow of the Godhead in oneness. God is one and man and woman the bible teaches us become one in Him. Jesus said, "For this reason (marriage) a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."

Becoming something new in marriage is a joyful experience and yet at times it is painful as we go through the transformation process. I have a song on my phone that came up while I was riding my bike that I remembered sending to my wife years ago now on our 28th wedding anniversary while we were celebrating at the coast for a few days. 

The very first line of the song hit me as this week has been very difficult for me personally in dealing with the attacks of the enemy in my own life. As I thought about the dark cloud that was forming over my head this past Monday that was seeking to weigh me down the Lord reminded me in this song of the bright light I have in my wife, the gift of her life that affirms yet again, "Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NKJV).

"Fade Into Me"
David Cook

All I feel now is the weight of the day
I need you with me to push it away

When we disappear into each other
Colors appear and bleed into one

Fade into me, fade into you
The two of us melting together
Until we become something new
And we can't escape
The world chasing to find us
Both of us hidden from view
You fade into me

When I'm broken, you're the one thing I need
Like an ocean, I feel you crash over me

We disappear into each other
Colors appear and bleed into one

Fade into me, fade into you
The two of us melting together
Until we become something new
We can't escape
The world chasing to find us
Both of us hidden from view
You fade into me

Let go, fall in and drown in the moment with me
Sink in till we start to break

Fade into me, fade into you
The two of us melting together
Until we become something new
We can't escape
The world chasing to find us

Oh fade into me, fade into you
The two of us melting together
Until we become something new
We can't escape
The world chasing to find us
Both of us hidden from view
Fade into me
Fade into me....
Fade into me... (song ends)

Yes, loved one, the beauty of marriage created by God is the ability for man and woman to be transformed and to become something new in life. The process doesn't end on our wedding day but continues on every day until we meet Jesus face to face one day! For me, thirty five years and three beautiful children and three beautiful beyond description, wonderful grand babies (as of this writing) serve as my reminder today of what it is to become one, to as the song sings, "Fade into me, fade into you, The two of us melting together, Until we become something new."

As I listened to the song by David Cook, Jesus prayer in John 17 came to mind when Jesus prayed that we might be one in Him. I can almost hear the Lord inviting me and you to, "Fade into Me fade into you, the two of us melting together, until we become something new". Obviously the "we" is us, you and me, as God never changes. We become one in Him! The same is true in marriage. Give yourself completely to it, hold nothing back. Allow the heat of life's trials to melt you together until you become something new! God loves making all things new! May He start with me, may He start with you! 


"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new."

2 Corinthians 5:17

I LOVE YOU!


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